Parents Fault

Parents Fault: IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT!

Who’s to blame? No one! In my opinion, what you’re up against has a problem that has a life of its own. It takes over and can steal your son or daughter away from you while you are sleeping. You hardly notice it and, when you do, it’s often disguised as something else. It’s not the result of poor parenting. If your child has alcoholism, it is the result of a family disease that is largely attributable to genetics. It has very little to do with the environment or “shaping” of the child by anyone. It has to do with the inability to process alcohol and possibly any mood-altering chemical normally. Plese visit this link

In all other areas, your child may be normal or even exceptional, thereby deceiving you into thinking that he or she is too smart to continue this forever. Well, it matters not if you are rich or poor, healthy or sick, happy or not happy, good looking or not, intelligent or not – this problem does not discriminate. It will prey on any class of people. It’s not the result of poor parenting.

Teens from very functional homes have alcoholism. George Vailliant (1981) looked at personality profiles of alcoholics before they drank and found them to be somewhat “normal.” Family therapists have noticed for decades that when they are working with the family and this problem comes up, there are usually alcoholic family members on at least one side of the family. This suggests that the problem “runs” in the family, is genetic. Many functional people have the problem. You know this yourself from the media reports. Not all of them can be wrong!

This is not a disgrace. Yet it is still being treated thusly. Don’t be one of the misinformed or uninformed that still judges alcoholism as the result of laziness of immorality. There are treatment centers just for the clergy. There are treatment centers for professionals. There are twelve step meetings just for M.D.s and lawyers and so on. These are not a lazy, stupid, depraved or immoral class of people. The disease does not discriminate.

Once you are educated, it is easier to let go of the guilt. In my thirty-six years as a therapist, I have not met many parents who did not feel guilty. However, it is not logical to feel guilty. Have you really done wrong? Did you give them the ability to tolerate incredible quantities of alcohol? Did you take away their motivation? Did you make sure they would develop character flaws such as lying, cheating or stealing? No! You did not. They did not plan this either.

In my practice, I often come upon families with this problem and always ask the parents if they feel like they have lost their child. Invariably, the answer is yes. When we trace the onset of alcohol abuse, we usually find that the child changed in behavior and personality about this time. This is significant. This begins the dysfunctional separation and alienation of the teen from the family, which usually leads the family to alienate the teen out of desperation and feelings of powerlessness. As parents, we must not succumb to this. With the proper direction and action as a team, healing and redirection are possible. It takes family work.

So go ahead! Feel guilty if you must. However, you don’t have to. If you do, take some action that will get rid of the guilt. Then let it go. Move on to treatment. Get help from a qualified, licensed professional. Take your child to AA. Go to AL-Anon yourself and drag your spouse there also. Do not be embarrassed. It’s not the result of poor parenting.

Lastly, don’t sabotage treatment. Get help instead of continuing to do this by yourself. Find out how a teenager can take the steps to sobriety and follow the model thoroughly and consistently over time. The disease has a life of its own and wants to cripple you just as it wants to cripple the alcoholic. It’s out to destroy. Don’t let it. Get help and heal!

Is There a Rheumatoid Arthritis Natural Treatment

Rheumatoid Arthritis Natural Treatment

Is there a rheumatoid arthritis natural treatment?

Is there just one or are there many rheumatoid arthritis natural treatments? What are they? How effective are they? Are these complete cures or do they put arthritis into remission?

The protocol listed below is a summary of months of research, the summary of many experiments and clinical studies. Gelatin is made of collagen, the raw material in joints and connective tissue. A restaurant food supplier selling unsweetened gelatin in pound or kilogram (2.2 pounds) quantities is the cheapest source.

Gelatin is very similar in structure to the collagen type 2 that composes connective tissues including cartilage. The theory with using gelatin as a remedy for arthritis is that as a precursor to cartilage the gelatin prevents arthritic damage from occurring and supports the body to repair existing damage.

In a Harvard study, a heaping tablespoon of gelatin daily put arthritis into remission for 28 out of 29 patients. Remission occurred within 90 days. Gelatin is usually a very safe product with a few people reporting stomach upset very rarely. The daily dosage is a heaping tablespoon of gelatin in water or juice. Vitamin C may be mixed into the gelatin.

Preparation of the gelatin: Fill a glass one quarter full with cold water; tap water temperature is fine. Sprinkle the heaping tablespoon of gelatin on the water and let it sit for 2 to 3 minutes. Add about a quarter of a glass of hot tap water, not boiling water. Stir well. Add a quarter of a glass of cold water and stir again. Drink.

This portion of the rheumatoid arthritis remedy protocol is particularly important for people who drastically limit their red meat intake.

Pharmaceutical grade vs. food-grade fish oil Fish oil should reduce the inflammation of arthritis. Clinical studies and academic experiments over the last 200 years have consistently indicated rheumatoid arthritis relief is one of many benefits from fish oil.

At this time there is no standardized definition in the USA to differentiate between pharmaceutical grade and food grade fish oil.

An analysis of nine studies of rheumatoid arthritis sufferers taking omega-3s showed no reduction in joint damage but the number of tender joints decreased. In six of the studies, people with rheumatoid arthritis were able to reduce their use of NSAIDs or corticosteroids. Additionally, a 2005 study of people with rheumatoid arthritis indicated increased positive benefits when fish oil supplements were used in combination with olive oil used in everyday cooking.

Symptoms are dose dependent in that most people that “try” fish oil for rheumatoid arthritis relief only takes 1 or 2 capsules daily. A typical high-grade fish oil capsule at 30% polyunsaturated fatty acid would require 9 – 10 capsules a day to achieve the basal minimum dosage.

A small number of people report abdominal cramps and diarrhea when taking this amount, 9 – 10 capsules daily, of fish oil. Fish oil products that contain high quantities of vitamin A and D, which could be toxic in high quantities, should not be used.

Since there are some pharmaceutical grade and food grade fish oil formulations that contain as much as 50% polyunsaturated fatty acids, be sure to verify the amount on the label. Adjust the number of capsules accordingly.

Omega-3 polyunsaturated fatty acids inhibit blood clotting; avoid taking fish oil supplements before and after surgery. Fish oil may have a “laxative effect” at different dosages on some people. Consult your health care professional before beginning any supplements.

Green Tea China, Japan, and India are countries where green tea is regarded as a healthy beverage with the potential to prevent certain diseases. These countries have a much lower rate of rheumatoid arthritis than elsewhere around the world.

A study at Case Western Reserve University in Ohio, USA discovered that mice which were fed green tea were significantly less susceptible to developing arthritis than the mice fed plain water. The test group of mice fed green tea did develop arthritis; however, it occurred as late onset and mild. Eight of 18, or 44%, of the mice receiving green tea, developed arthritis while 17 out of 18, or 94%, of the control group mice, fed water developed arthritis.

The study concluded that the green tea effect was dramatic.

The green tea used for the polyphenols was regular, not decaffeinated. This part of the procedure may not be advisable for people that have to restrict their intake of caffeine.

Diet Many people feel that diet is the foundation upon which a person suffering from rheumatoid arthritis builds.

In other words, start with your everyday diet; modify it as much as possible to be supportive and preventive. Particularly your everyday diet must not lead to being overweight! (Why add more pounds to those poor stressed out bones and joints.)

Then, add the glycerin. After 10 to 14 days add the fish oil remedy in addition to the glycerin, after another 2 weeks add green tea to the glycerin and fish oil, etc.

Most of these simple, safe and relatively inexpensive rheumatoid arthritis remedies shown in this remedy protocol are effective to some degree for some people, perhaps a majority of people. They certainly will not be effective for everyone all the time. Consequently, testimonials are of limited use. This rheumatoid arthritis remedy protocol is designed specifically as an incremental protocol where the sufferer modifies their everyday diet and then adds one remedy, then another, then another, etc.